posted by shalini on Dec 31
It goes without saying that when two people are on a date they want to have fun and enjoy themselves. You are no different from the rest in this. But other than words did you ever stop to think about body language? The first conversation is always by body language. A confident person will be relaxed, smile, lean in while talking to you and be very animated in whatever he is trying to say to you. But a person who is tense will show it in all his postures. He might sit back, cross his legs or arms, eyes darting around the room and barely a smile on the face. So convey your confidence through your body language.
Next check out how vocal you are. It’s your verbal skills that are going to do the first job of creating an impression. How you carry on a conversation and how your partner responds to you are all determined by your verbal skills. This is one way of increasing your chances of getting more dates. So how do you go about finding interesting topic to create an interesting discussion or conversation?
A conversation is governed by two parts i.e. asking questions and answering questions. The right questions gain the right atmosphere and ensure that your partner too enjoys answering them.
The wrong questions and you can say good night to the date before it even began. Evasive answers or even not so honest answers will end the date faster than you can ask the next question.
Questions carry some power in them because if you ask anyone a direct question then the other feels obligated to answer you. There are some interesting conversation openers you can use like ask about the person hobbies. If they have spare time then how do they use it? Do they have that special place they want to travel to?
These types of questions have a tendency of bringing up past experience which can tell you a lot about the person. These are just some ideas of course the sky is the limit for topics. So think up of what you would like to know and then formulate some questions which don’t make you seem like the CBI out to get information and watch you and your date have a really enjoyable time with the good chance of there being more dates in the future.
posted by shalini on Dec 25
Flirting is an art and you will find that women and men flirt in different ways. The main difference lies in the fact that both have a different idea of what the result or outcome of the flirt session should be and because of this the reasons for flirting are also different. Flirting to be just friendly will open up newer avenues and if you don’t end up with a lover you would have made a good friend who just might introduce you to some potential dates. So keep the outcome factor on the back burner and keep an open mind so you get the most out of your flirting
If you see someone you like and she notices you, smile, exchange glances and if you feel that she may be interested then try sending her a drink. Remember it is she who must indicate that there is some interest. Another thing, you have only sent her a drink to see her receive it and smile a thank you so don’t expect dinner and desert. Give her a little time to enjoy her drink than glance her way again to indicate an interest.
Let’s say she accepts your drink and extends an invitation to join her table. Here you must remember to be part of the conversation going and not focus on getting that date. Like most women she too would like to get to know the person before committing to even a drink at a later date. Weave a conversation in a way that you get to know her and she gets to know more about you and feels confident enough to accept as and when you do ask her for a date.
A big mistake on your part would be to make an attempt at getting to know two women on the same table. Neither will think very highly of you as no woman likes to feel she is second best. Secondly don’t even approach them one after the other as here you send out signals that you may be a loser and may be desperate for a date too. You may be desperate but don’t let it show.
Now complimenting a woman is an art by itself. No woman like over the top compliments. Find something genuine to compliment her on and be selective with your compliments so they have more credibility. Everyone has something nice about them like their eyes, their smile, their hair, style of talking etc so find one and then give the compliment.
Touch is yet another no-no. Ensure that you re talking to a woman who does not mind touch a part of the conversation. There are some who like it there re others who hate it and there are those who are completely horrified that a strange person touched them. As a flirting action nothing beats touching but just light touching like an arm over the back of the chair she’s sitting on. Respect the person till you feel you have gained enough ground to get a little more familiar. Personal space is sacred so test it before you walk in.
Last but not the least, respect yourself too. Women tend to go for men who make themselves a wee bit difficult to get. You are special and you know you deserve the best so don’t grovel or show that you are desperate.
posted by shalini on Dec 22
For a women being romantic means those little glances, a touch or a look her way, kind of thing. Flowers while being nice are also kind of overdone now days. Romance comes form your imagination. Almost anything can be a romantic gesture if done correctly and presented stylishly. Mix and match ideas and use your imagination creatively. The most important factor is in keeping the lady’s lies ahead of your own.
It’s quite easy to create romantic moments so women often wonder why men can’t figure it out. Find out some activities that she likes to do and then build something romantic around it or with it. There are so many things like walking on the beach, fine dining, movies etc where you will find you can do a lot to work out some romantic moments. Maybe she likes shopping, which of course most men would not care to eve think about but if you go along with her once in a while you will score brownie points.
Finally it comes down to doing the things she likes to do. What would make it the most romantic gesture ever would be if you forgo some football match or your favorite program to do something she likes to do Giving her the feeling that she is the chosen one will make her feel on top of the world and it is probably your best romantic gesture ever,
In most cases it’s not the activity that is the cause of any problem but the fact that you were there physically but mentally you were elsewhere. So be alert to whatever is that you are doing together and give it your fullest attention. The aim is to be romantic so stick with the script.
To make some romantic moments, plan a little, think a little and keep your eyes open for an opportunity whenever and wherever you are. There can be romantic moments in the day to day things that you do also. It’s a win-win situation so make the most of your romantic moments. .
posted by shalini on Dec 13
Getting to know a person involves spending quality time with the other person. It’s about getting positive results from your communication and communication covers both the verbal and the non verbal. One good way of ensuring that your relationship goes the upward way is to learn all you can about your date. Learning about the other person ensures that you don’t inadvertently do things that she dislikes which may prove disastrous for a budding relationship. Read the rest of this entry »
posted by shalini on Dec 12
One of the most important factors in any relationship is the need to communicate. Without communication any relationship, be it business personal or family will find it difficult to stay alive. Communication can be defined as a two way exchange of ideas and opinions between people. It’s a combination of words and actions which together convey one’s thoughts and feelings to the other. Both actions and words are equally important. Here we are going to talk about verbal communication, the kind that is essential to get any relationship off the ground. We are of course talking about success in the art of dating and the need for verbal communication to carry out the same. Read the rest of this entry »
posted by shalini on Nov 29
Romance is not the same if there are no romantic gestures for romancing a woman. To seduce a woman and make a great impression you need to go all out to make the date as romantic as possible. This means creating an occasion out of a no occasion day. There are no rules in romance and certainly none that say you have to wait for a special day to swing by to make it a romantic day.
During your learning process about women you may have figured out that there are some things that all women find romantic. If you have a good idea of what your lady likes or does not like then you can really plan a nice romantic outing for the two of you. If you don’t know your lady too well then don’t fret. There are some tried and tested do’s to romance that never fail. Moreover the very thought that goes in to planning a romantic outing is a romantic gesture in itself which will make her feel special and will impress too.
Most of the ideas don’t take up much time in getting it all together. As mentioned above, the smallest of things can come across as a romantic gesture which will always impress and make the woman feel special. For an outing try a candlelit picnic in a park or some place quiet. You can put a picnic hamper together with things both of you like to eat like cheese and strawberries and some wine. Take along a music box or a CD player so you have music and some dancing and an evening that will be remembered for a long time to come. But carry a blanket if you feel the weather might turn.
Another good idea is to have a candlelight dinner for two at your home. Make sure the menu consists of what she likes best and if you have cooked it then it adds to the romantic gestures list else you can always order in. Tidy up your place if you feel it’s untidy so she does not trip over shoes out for a walk on their own or a gym bag. Keep the music on and a nice wine, add a vase of the flowers she likes and you have the perfect setting.
The whole idea is that you do things that are sure to please her and you can’t go wrong with that now can you?
posted by shalini on Nov 27
For success in the world of seduction, sensitivity towards the other person is very essential. A woman has a very unique perspective on how she would look at a man and one of the first things she sees is whether the man is sensitive or not. This is one area which can make or break a prospective relationship. Lack of sensitivity can act as a big put off for most women. Ensure that you do have a sensitive side and that your lady friend sees this side of you ever so often.
Basically sensitivity is an emotion or a desired trait in a person and this can be defined as someone who is aware of the things happening around. Such awareness would make the person sensitive to the other and to the situation. For example, you hear some bad news and you tell your colleague about it, the next minute the same colleague turns and cracks a joke and everyone has a good laugh. That is being insensitive to the other’s hurt or grief at that point of time. Unfortunately being sensitive is one trait that has got the wrong end of the stick from society in general.
So now you know what sensitivity is and you feel you may be ready to deal with it. But no, did you realize that it’s not just being sensitive that a woman is looking for? Now comes the difficult part. It’s not just your awareness of things around you that count. Women look for a specific type of sensivity from men.
A classic example would be straight from the movies where a couple is seen walking down the road on a cold chilly night and the guy takes off his coat and puts it around her shoulders and bears the cold himself. That’s sensitivity. Of course in real life it could go on to the man making some sacrifice for the woman and this would then be a really impressive gesture on his part. This ability to be more caring of the other’s welfare will impress ladies beyond doubt.
posted by shalini on Nov 27
Did you know that when it comes to gauging how successful or unsuccessful you are, it is your attitude that plays the biggest part? Guys with a positive attitude will have better luck with women than those with a negative attitude to everything in life. A positive attitude shows in all your dealing in life whether interpersonal relationships or your working life. Women in general like a guy who os upbeat and confident and will choose to date a guy like that.
It’s a fact that a positive attitude shows the person’s self respect and confidence in himself. It is this attitude that people respond to when in a crowd. For example if you are working with a partner or colleague who is always thinking negative then after some time you will start feeling irritated and annoyed. It’s his pessimistic attitude that is rubbing off on you. No one likes Mr. Morose himself for a companion so try and be happy and keep a positive attitude at all times.
Did you ever consider that if you are negative then you will not be able to make a positive impression on a woman when you are dating her? If you don’t feel good yourself then how can you make others feel good? Send out positive vibes and you will get positive responses in return. Send out negative ones and no one will come close, forget actually trying to get to know you.
So the bottom line is that woman like men who are stable. Your work says a lot about your stability. It does not matter what you do for a living. What would work against you are frequent job changes and being removed for poor performance or team spirit - then women will think not just twice but maybe even four times. At the end of the day women are looking for an equal partnership. Be positive and be confident even if you do change jobs ever so often. Your self confidence will make up for that aspect.
posted by shalini on Nov 25
Now here is a cliché but it’s oh so true. We are all guilty of judging a book by its cover and we do it fairly often too. By nature humans possess a tendency to be superficial so judging on appearance alone is quite a common phenomenon. But this attitude can be quite harmful if you are keen on having a long-term relationship with a woman. Like men even women like to be accepted and liked for what they are and not what they look like. Even the most beautiful woman will not like to be judged on the basis of her looks.
At the back of every woman’s mind is the fact that one day she will have children and her body is going to undergo a lot of changes. When this happens naturally some of her earlier youthfulness will be lost for some time or for a long time. This type of knowledge can be frightening and if women are to be judged on the basis of their physical appearance alone then this would be a very scary scenario for them. As women age they go gray and wrinkles start making an appearance. While men get away with looking distinguished with the grays women tend to look old and wrinkle number one sends them running for botox injections. The reason for this is the way society is. In general society has made women more conscious and more wary of how they look and dress.
When you are dating a woman then keep in mind that you have to look for what you believe is important in a woman. If it’s looks, then you both may be in for a not very satisfying relationship.
Of course this does not mean you have to settle for someone totally unappealing or someone you find not very attractive. There are other traits in women like their personality, their intelligence and of course compatibility between the two of you. So if you take the time to learn more about the woman inside then you may find that the outside does not matter so much after all.
posted by shalini on Nov 24
Seducing a woman starts with finding out and understanding the qualities a woman is looking for in a man. It’s not surprise then that for a lot of men seducing a woman is a mystery. The reason for this is easy to comprehend. There are so many differences between a man and a woman that they cannot possibly understand the working of each others minds.
There are no hard and fast rules to seducing women. It’s not like some checklist where you can tick off the things that need to be done. The key is to stick to a path where you can seduce the woman mind, body and soul and you will soon realize that this not as difficult as you may have believed. A good start would be to try and understand the simple differences that exist between men and women. This will help you know more about women and then you can build on your newly gained knowledge and find you way in to a woman’s mind. Once there, it’s smooth sailing.
Ultimately it is communication that is the most important factor when seducing a woman. The key to achievement of any kind is effective communication. To know what she is looking for requires time and an open mind. This information gathering trip will not be a waste of time because it is this information that will benefit you the most when you are seducing a woman. Patience is yet another virtue essential to the success of your seduction plan. You need to take things slow because if you rush things then you will undo all the mileage you gained while learning about her. Prove her wrong by taking your time and going slow.
Women like to treated like they are special. A little bit of romance makes them feel special. Be romantic and you will find that it is easy to seduce the woman. Being romantic shows that you know how to treat w woman, it shows that you care and that you want to do things that will make her happy. It’s romance that will take you down the road to seducing a woman.